Over the years I have had a lot of resistance towards 'SELF-Care' even mentioning the words raised the hairs on my back. I felt guilty. Indulgent. Unworthy...
Believing that I must put my family, my partner, my work, my students, my emails, my calls, my neighbor, my pets, my....(the list continues), above me, sent me to a place of complete exhaustion.
In the end I couldn't be anything for anyone.
When trying to address beliefs around 'self-care', our Western society applauses and actually encourages the idea of pushing yourself to the limit and achieving the most possible. Many religions advocate self sacrifice. Taking time out and looking after oneself can be seen as lazy and slothful.
However self-care is not selfish. Infact, self-care is selfless. Through self-care we can be more to more people. We can be better parents, employees, spouses, friends. We become able to withstand the demands of modern life and respond from a place of balance and ease.
On an airplane, an oxygen mask drops in front of you. What do you do? As we all know, the first rule is to put on your own oxygen mask before you assist anyone else. Only when we first help ourselves can we effectively help others.
Caring for yourself is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. It is also one of the easiest things to forget. Often we stop when it's too late. When we are worn out, stressed out and run down. You do not have to be 'running on empty' to remember to slow down...you can do it right now!
Give yourself permission to re-fuel and lead by example. Treat yourself as a worthwhile person, showing that you are valuable, competent and deserving.
Where to begin? You may wonder...
You don't need to spend hours or hundreds to give yourself some loving. It can be as simple as doing some yoga at home, taking a Bath, nourishing your skin, preparing a healthy nutritious meal you'll love, play some soothing music, go to bed early, have a massage, walk on the beach, listen to the birds, whatever you do, do something to take care of YOU.
Making you time is the secret to maintaining a healthy mind, body and spirit.